Is it mentioned how old this kid is? Doesn't seem like it.
I'm going to assume she's below 10.
It really is perfectly fine to minimize your exposure to someone you don't like. If you live a distance away, you can just... not visit much. And give presents when called for. Biological family does not have to be some kind of magical "WE MUST ALL BE *THS* CLOSE!" (Carolyn is giving advice from that context, because it's the dominant paradigm, and from that context, it's quite kind and good advice.)
The thing is, I wouldn't mind minimizing the kid's exposure to the grandparents, because wow, the sourpuss-ness. Kids pick up on unspoken messages. I'd rather those messages didn't include people thinking, "You are a pain in our asses."
Also, yes, they have no freakin' idea about girls, ADHD, or anything else about someone younger than Methuselah.
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I'm going to assume she's below 10.
It really is perfectly fine to minimize your exposure to someone you don't like. If you live a distance away, you can just... not visit much. And give presents when called for. Biological family does not have to be some kind of magical "WE MUST ALL BE *THS* CLOSE!" (Carolyn is giving advice from that context, because it's the dominant paradigm, and from that context, it's quite kind and good advice.)
The thing is, I wouldn't mind minimizing the kid's exposure to the grandparents, because wow, the sourpuss-ness. Kids pick up on unspoken messages. I'd rather those messages didn't include people thinking, "You are a pain in our asses."
Also, yes, they have no freakin' idea about girls, ADHD, or anything else about someone younger than Methuselah.