I have some sympathy for LW. To kind of oversimplify, I had some difficulty with a spouse who spent most of his time away from me (mostly upstairs, watching tv) because he just wasn't up to conversation, or because he wasn't up to watching something other than exactly what he wanted to watch, or, mostly, because he was dealing with depression. Every once in a while, he would decide that he wanted to talk or watch something or do something, and there was an expectation that I would be ready and willing and able to drop what I was doing and engage. And when I didn't, the fact that we spent very little time together became about me (this was complicated by a background issue, in that in the past, I have been the reason we weren't spending time together, and he tends to kind of fix stuff like that in his mind and not perceive that things have changed).

So, I get it. One thing I might ask the LW is if there could be a middle ground of the two of them quietly watching a movie together or listening to a podcast or something similarly quiet. Whether that works for either of them, I can't say. If even that is too much, then I do kind of agree that LW needs to re-examine the marriage, and whether they want to be married at all.