That was how I read it, too — that Husband is like, “I’m available NOW NOW NOW, I need you to take time off work and spend it with me, AND I want you to perform being ‘on’ in a similar way as the well that your work drains from.”
Like, it’s not that she has AFTERNOONS OFF, it’s that she has slower periods at work where she “could” potentially take leave and do her own thing.
Does she have a limited pool of available PTO, like most people do? Could this affect her workflow or ability to take other recharge time or potentially cause problems with her boss for spontaneously taking hours off on same-day notice?
I think it’s important for LW to figure out whether she actually enjoys spending time with her husband — but I can see multiple ways in which the last-minute nature of these requests could affect her negatively, in addition to just being a disruption in routine.
And I’m someone who LIKES to steal time to spend with my partners pretty much whenever possible, but I can still see some issues here (and I am also chronically-ill, and unless it’s a text or phone conversation, I need to have some spoons set aside to feel *prepared* to spend in-person or video chat time.)
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Like, it’s not that she has AFTERNOONS OFF, it’s that she has slower periods at work where she “could” potentially take leave and do her own thing.
Does she have a limited pool of available PTO, like most people do? Could this affect her workflow or ability to take other recharge time or potentially cause problems with her boss for spontaneously taking hours off on same-day notice?
I think it’s important for LW to figure out whether she actually enjoys spending time with her husband — but I can see multiple ways in which the last-minute nature of these requests could affect her negatively, in addition to just being a disruption in routine.
And I’m someone who LIKES to steal time to spend with my partners pretty much whenever possible, but I can still see some issues here (and I am also chronically-ill, and unless it’s a text or phone conversation, I need to have some spoons set aside to feel *prepared* to spend in-person or video chat time.)