IIRC she has mellowed on the IBS part, as I saw her point the above out in a more recent discussion. Or I had a happy dream that she did so. *wry smile*

The discussion kind of has several entangled threads, one being this particular guy and another being All The Theoretical Guys Who Could Use This As An Excuse To Be Harassing Assholes. I think some of the clashes are between people trying to discuss these different concepts and thinking the other is disagreeing with them.