I mean, I dislike but can deal with the childproofing analogy, because it came with a "feel free not to talk to them ever in any way" comment, but the main problem is, it's unrealistic.
If you have a mom who wants to mediate, *she will keep trying*. (in general) You will *keep getting drawn in*. (in general)
So, yeah, drawing lines, probably gonna have to happen, unfortunately.
"Do I owe my brother’s family yet another chance to explain themselves? Even if they promise to stop publicly stating these racist things, how can I trust them to be kind to children of color in my care? How can I have a relationship with my parents, even if I can’t have one with my brother?"
Also, in order: No, you can't, and with difficulty. (And it's OK not to if it comes to that.)
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If you have a mom who wants to mediate, *she will keep trying*. (in general) You will *keep getting drawn in*. (in general)
So, yeah, drawing lines, probably gonna have to happen, unfortunately.
"Do I owe my brother’s family yet another chance to explain themselves? Even if they promise to stop publicly stating these racist things, how can I trust them to be kind to children of color in my care? How can I have a relationship with my parents, even if I can’t have one with my brother?"
Also, in order: No, you can't, and with difficulty. (And it's OK not to if it comes to that.)