This is one of the reasons I compared the LW's actions to an affair. There are quite a few people who have affairs for sympathetic reasons, who are not getting needs met in their 'official' relationship/relationships which are met by the affair.
However, having an affair is still dishonest, still a breaking of agreements and a betrayal of trust, no matter what sympathetic reasons people have for entering into one.
In 2019 I would have thought LW's SO was being controlling and scary. But a new factor has entered the equation, a disease that kills more than one in one hundred people who catch it and which leaves many more permanently injured. If LW can't live by their SO's rules then they need to deal with that aboveboard, for both their SO's sake and their own.
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However, having an affair is still dishonest, still a breaking of agreements and a betrayal of trust, no matter what sympathetic reasons people have for entering into one.
In 2019 I would have thought LW's SO was being controlling and scary. But a new factor has entered the equation, a disease that kills more than one in one hundred people who catch it and which leaves many more permanently injured. If LW can't live by their SO's rules then they need to deal with that aboveboard, for both their SO's sake and their own.