I feel like I'm also more sympathetic because I think no oral is a far more common deal breaker in the lbpq dating scene. So, realistically, the fact that she doesn't enjoy giving or receiving oral significantly reduces the portion of the dating pool she's sexually compatible with (by which I don't mean anything about her sexual orientation but just that their interests in the bedroom line up for a good time for all parties) in a way I don't think it does for straight men. Like, I don't think she's exaggerating when she says most of the women she's met are very interested in it.

I think the advice to just accept that she doesn't like it and to work on communicating this in a neutral way vs calling it 'gross' (or even thinking of it that way; with the background cultural baggage around sex and women's bodies, 'gross' is always going to be a value judgement, I think) is good, as well as the advice to be proactive about finding women who don't love oral. But like, we all know the feeling of hitting 'no new matches within X miles' on the dating app so like, I get why she's asking how she can enjoy it more even though she's within her rights not to like it and people are wrong to judge her for that alone.