I'm trying really hard not to factor in all the times I've seen a woman dismissed (especially but not at all only by a man) as 'difficult/crazy/psycho' because she evinces an emotion those around her find less than salubrious, and also all the 'MEN ARE THE REAL VICTIMS' bloviations in the comments.
That said.
I think the field of work they're in matters here because there may not be that many employment options in their local area (medical care often tends to be kind of centralized), so I don't find the ex getting a job at his workplace to be as stalkery as some thought it might be. (And I'm not surprised she didn't notify him. I wouldn't've either, lest he block my employment for spite and/or to make it harder for me to keep custody.) That said, HR will not want to risk any kind of impact on patients. Whomever manages the ex will not want to risk any kind of impact on patients. If the ex is any kind of half decent nurse SHE will not want to risk any kind of impact on patients. (If I were her I would already have spoken to my divorce lawyer and to HR about this situation.) He should definitely tell HR.
I don't think he should even go into the contentiousness of the divorce (again, if I heard that I'd be hard put not to think of the 'crazy ex' stereotype and how it's often deployed) and just point out that they are divorced and thus should not be assigned together if remotely possible. From what I've seen of scheduling in hospitals, unless it's a tiny place this should be doable.
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I'm trying really hard not to factor in all the times I've seen a woman dismissed (especially but not at all only by a man) as 'difficult/crazy/psycho' because she evinces an emotion those around her find less than salubrious, and also all the 'MEN ARE THE REAL VICTIMS' bloviations in the comments.
That said.
I think the field of work they're in matters here because there may not be that many employment options in their local area (medical care often tends to be kind of centralized), so I don't find the ex getting a job at his workplace to be as stalkery as some thought it might be. (And I'm not surprised she didn't notify him. I wouldn't've either, lest he block my employment for spite and/or to make it harder for me to keep custody.) That said, HR will not want to risk any kind of impact on patients. Whomever manages the ex will not want to risk any kind of impact on patients. If the ex is any kind of half decent nurse SHE will not want to risk any kind of impact on patients. (If I were her I would already have spoken to my divorce lawyer and to HR about this situation.) He should definitely tell HR.
I don't think he should even go into the contentiousness of the divorce (again, if I heard that I'd be hard put not to think of the 'crazy ex' stereotype and how it's often deployed) and just point out that they are divorced and thus should not be assigned together if remotely possible. From what I've seen of scheduling in hospitals, unless it's a tiny place this should be doable.