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conuly ([personal profile] conuly) wrote in [community profile] agonyaunt2020-02-15 05:37 pm

Judge John Hodgman on Inspecting Your Wife’s Garbage

Sherry writes: If I put a small shopping bag in our kitchen trash can, my husband will often take it out and search it to make sure I haven’t thrown away any receipts (he thinks they should all be shredded) or something salvageable. I believe he should trust in my ability to determine what is trash and what is not. Please order him to stop.

At best, he thinks you’re too dumb to throw out trash correctly, which is merely insulting. At worst, he’s policing not merely your garbage habits but also your actual purchases, which is gross and controlling. I’m sure he’ll deny this part, but he’s the one whose head is in the trash semi-literally digging up dirt on you. What does he think it looks like? I order him to leave your junk alone. But if he won’t, tell him you have nothing to hide and prove it by dumping your trash on his side of the bed every night so he can sort and shred to his satisfaction.

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/02/06/magazine/judge-john-hodgman-on-inspecting-your-wifes-garbage.html
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[personal profile] beable 2020-02-17 01:41 pm (UTC)(link)

I mean I do shred my receipts (unless its for items where one needs to actually keep them) but only because mostly they show carded transactions, and shredding them all is less work than not shredding the cash ones. Even if cards are masked I don't need to share those last 4 digits with the world.


But yeah, Id be worried about if “is this actually really a way to check the purchases” control stuff.