1. First of all, I now have Single Ladies running through my head, so thanks for that, LW.

2. You can't make her talk to you. Your issue is that she no longer wants to be in a relationship with you. This fact has nothing to do with whether or not she "understands" why you were unable to plan a wedding, and everything to do with the fact that she doesn't want to marry you and no longer wants to date you.

3. You are one unreliable narrator, by the way. This story has more holes in it than swiss cheese.