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conuly ([personal profile] conuly) wrote in [community profile] agonyaunt2019-11-09 03:44 am

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DEAR ABBY: One of my close friends' 37-year-old daughter was recently married. One hundred and fifty people were invited to her wedding, and I was not one of them. I sent a gift to the bride and groom before the wedding. We have been neighbors and close friends of her parents for 25 years. Needless to say, I am hurt.

My friend keeps sharing all the particulars and photos with me, which I gush over, but she doesn't realize my heart is broken. I thought we were the best of friends. She has other close friends, and I know them too. They were all at the wedding. I am sad and clueless about why I was snubbed, and I can't get over it. Help! -- HURTING INSIDE


DEAR HURTING: It was not your friend's wedding you were eliminated from but her daughter's. If there were 150 guests, half may have come from the groom's side -- friends, relatives, etc. Also, the happy couple may have wanted to include their own contemporaries. Level with your neighbor about how you feel and ask why you were left off the guest list. You may not have been snubbed at all.
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[personal profile] ayebydan 2019-11-09 11:57 pm (UTC)(link)
Leave it alone. If other past neighbors were there clearly they formed a closer bond with the daughter than you did. Get over it. Weddings are expensive. They can't invite every Tom, Dick and Harry that have ever lived next door.