agonyaunt | (no subject)

DEAR ABBY: One of my close friends' 37-year-old daughter was recently married. One hundred and fifty people were invited to her wedding, and I was not one of them. I sent a gift to the bride and groom before the wedding. We have been neighbors and close friends of her parents for 25 years. Needless to say, I am hurt.

My friend keeps sharing all the particulars and photos with me, which I gush over, but she doesn't realize my heart is broken. I thought we were the best of friends. She has other close friends, and I know them too. They were all at the wedding. I am sad and clueless about why I was snubbed, and I can't get over it. Help! -- HURTING INSIDE

DEAR HURTING: It was not your friend's wedding you were eliminated from but her daughter's. If there were 150 guests, half may have come from the groom's side -- friends, relatives, etc. Also, the happy couple may have wanted to include their own contemporaries. Level with your neighbor about how you feel and ask why you were left off the guest list. You may not have been snubbed at all.

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I see your point, but... I grew up with my parents' friends. There are some I might have invited to my prospective wedding and some I REALLY WOULD NOT HAVE. I think pushing to find out why one wasn't invited to an event risks working too well and uncovering too much truth.

Oh, believe me, I'm not suggesting the LW push on or obsess over the issue. I was just addressing the issue of people being invited to a wedding who are more the parents' friends than the couple's.