It's a minimal rebellion and it relates to bodily autonomy and a personalized expression of profound emotion. I feel that there's a control issue here on the parental side, and a failure of listening. She really, really wanted this, it was very important to her, and the parents really could have rolled with that. Maybe the 16 YO can be given/trained in handling more independence and responsibility around substantial matters, with less parental hovering.
Tattoos are removable these days. The shrilling about "PERMANENT BODY MODIFICATION" can be set aside, especially for a small shoulderblade tattoo. (Does the 16 YO have pierced ears, I wonder. This argument used to happen around that in many families.)
As for the 19 YO, lying about guardianship is a big deal, but without knowing more about the family dynamic, it's hard to see this as malicious or more than wanting to be the cool older friend with car keys and money.
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Tattoos are removable these days. The shrilling about "PERMANENT BODY MODIFICATION" can be set aside, especially for a small shoulderblade tattoo. (Does the 16 YO have pierced ears, I wonder. This argument used to happen around that in many families.)
As for the 19 YO, lying about guardianship is a big deal, but without knowing more about the family dynamic, it's hard to see this as malicious or more than wanting to be the cool older friend with car keys and money.