I had the weirdest fucking conversation with someone about that.
This was a spontaneous and peculiarly deep conversation I was having with a random organic store owner.
*She herself* had just said she had, basically, given up on her biological family, that she had written a letter to them saying Various Things and pretty much cutting them off. (It was one of those situations where, as just one symptom, they expected her to be *at* every damn family event, but put no effort into asking her about them, and various other long-term manipulative and harmful dynamics.)
So I said my partner had cut off contact with her family, and she was like, "Oh, I hope not forever!"
And I was like... Pause pause... "Well, her mother was abusive. It may not be forever, and she's gotten back in contact with her father, but not her mother yet. I would have thought you'd understand, given your own situation."
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This was a spontaneous and peculiarly deep conversation I was having with a random organic store owner.
*She herself* had just said she had, basically, given up on her biological family, that she had written a letter to them saying Various Things and pretty much cutting them off. (It was one of those situations where, as just one symptom, they expected her to be *at* every damn family event, but put no effort into asking her about them, and various other long-term manipulative and harmful dynamics.)
So I said my partner had cut off contact with her family, and she was like, "Oh, I hope not forever!"
And I was like... Pause pause... "Well, her mother was abusive. It may not be forever, and she's gotten back in contact with her father, but not her mother yet. I would have thought you'd understand, given your own situation."
People are effing weird.