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conuly ([personal profile] conuly) wrote in [community profile] agonyaunt2019-08-05 04:59 pm
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Dear Care and Feeding,

Please settle this battle between my 16-year-old and myself. She wants to put a lock on her bedroom door. (Her younger brother does, admittedly, bust in on her a lot.) I just don’t like the idea. I don’t like the idea of locks in my house, I don’t think she really knows what she’s asking for, and it’s causing a lot of fights.

—The House Is for Everyone

Let her put a lock on the door. She’s 16. She’ll be an adult and out the door in two years. She deserves to be able to masturbate in peace. This is the easiest question I have ever gotten. Thank you.
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[personal profile] minoanmiss 2019-08-05 09:19 pm (UTC)(link)
I like the reply.

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[personal profile] tielan 2019-08-05 09:28 pm (UTC)(link)
She's asking for a lock on her door because people in the house (the son is mentioned, but I wouldn't be surprised if the parent[s] are also violators) don't respect her privacy.

Seems legit.

And it sounds like LW needs to do some unpacking (for themselves) on why they "just don't like the idea". No locks in the house? Not in the bathroom or toilet? Not on the study door? Not on the parental bedroom?
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watersword: Someone holding a book open next to a cup of tea. (Stock: quiet)

[personal profile] watersword 2019-08-05 10:28 pm (UTC)(link)
"I don’t think she really knows what she’s asking for"

She's asking for a lock on her door. It's not an ambiguous request. She's not asking for "meaningful enlightenment" or "to understand the meaning of life." She wants to be able to lock her bedroom door.

Is there some sort of metaphysical aspect to this?
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[personal profile] redbird 2019-08-06 12:26 am (UTC)(link)
I don't think it's the 16-year-old who doesn't know what she's asking for, or why. This is a parent who can write for advice because "my 16-year-old wants to be able to lock her door, because her younger brother routinely busts in on her when she has the door closed. I keep telling her no, even though I can't give a reason beyond 'I just don't like it.'"
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[personal profile] darchildre 2019-08-06 04:11 am (UTC)(link)
"I don’t think she really knows what she’s asking for" = "I don't trust my daughter enough to give her privacy but don't want to articulate that either for her or for an advice column that because it makes me sound bad"
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[personal profile] lilysea 2019-08-06 05:38 am (UTC)(link)
Unless the 16 year old has a recent history of
a) suicide attempts;
b) intravenous drug use

LET HER HAVE A GOD DAMN LOCK ON HER BEDROOM DOOR!
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