You’re not wrong, and it was a real problem — the “bait-and-switch” issue wasn’t confined to socializing.
It was really frustrating — he married an extroverted social butterfly with a ton of friends, an artist, someone who loves to dance and travel and have new experiences, a Goth since my early teens, someone who had been open since the beginning about my preference for polyamory, etc., and he wanted me to CHANGE all of those things :/
It felt like cutting pieces off myself and getting smaller and smaller.
There was a real element of “I’ve lost interest in these things, so you should, too” from him. Ugh.
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It was really frustrating — he married an extroverted social butterfly with a ton of friends, an artist, someone who loves to dance and travel and have new experiences, a Goth since my early teens, someone who had been open since the beginning about my preference for polyamory, etc., and he wanted me to CHANGE all of those things :/
It felt like cutting pieces off myself and getting smaller and smaller.
There was a real element of “I’ve lost interest in these things, so you should, too” from him. Ugh.