I do think there is also a place for saying to [person B]
"This aspect of [person A's] parenting results in their children doing behaviour X, which means I can't have [person A] and their children in my house because it's too stressful"
but that's a fairly specific circumstance.
I have a friend who has a ***very*** Laissez-faire approach to parenting (including outright major safety issues like her very heavy/strong 5 year old trying to jump/stomp up-and-down on her very frail 12 month year old sisters head when the 12 month year old was lying flat on her back on a play mat on a solid wooden floor), and I've never commented to that friend about her parenting style.
I have, however, explained to mutual friends when we're making social plans that I cannot have [friend] and her children in my house, because it's far too stressful and exhausting for me, because [friend] automatically delegates the major physical safety of her children to me and the other adults in the house, without first asking us if we can take that on.
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"This aspect of [person A's] parenting results in their children doing behaviour X, which means I can't have [person A] and their children in my house because it's too stressful"
but that's a fairly specific circumstance.
I have a friend who has a ***very*** Laissez-faire approach to parenting (including outright major safety issues like her very heavy/strong 5 year old trying to jump/stomp up-and-down on her very frail 12 month year old sisters head when the 12 month year old was lying flat on her back on a play mat on a solid wooden floor), and I've never commented to that friend about her parenting style.
I have, however, explained to mutual friends when we're making social plans that I cannot have [friend] and her children in my house, because it's far too stressful and exhausting for me, because [friend] automatically delegates the major physical safety of her children to me and the other adults in the house, without first asking us if we can take that on.