I'm not sure I agree though, that there is necessarily a problem. If the LW and the BFF and the husband don't have a culture of casual texting, then I can see why this might not have gotten mentioned.
It depends whether their text conversations over the weekend were "hey honey? where do you keep the plunger?" Or were more "OMG it was hilarious when Valerie and Mizuho tried to drink a yard of beer at the Bellagio!" If they were more the former, then I could see how it might have gone unnoticed. If they were the latter it's definitely weird.
but, I mean, the LW tells us that the husband and the BFF are good friends. She is single. I think it's reasonable, especially if the husband entirely doesn't think of the BFF sexually and so doesn't it occur to him that there might be an alternate interpretation, that the husband thought to himself "well, my wife is away for the weekend with her good friends, so I want to do something fun with my buddy, BFF. We love watching football together!"
I'm just thinking that if this happened in my relationship, and I were out of town and my partner decided to go over to one of my single BFF's house to watch football (one of my BFF's) or baseball (a different one), he wouldn't necessarily tell me until after the fact, and I would absolutely not think anything hinky of it. So it really does depend on the couple.
Re: Oh Annie, so OLD
It depends whether their text conversations over the weekend were "hey honey? where do you keep the plunger?" Or were more "OMG it was hilarious when Valerie and Mizuho tried to drink a yard of beer at the Bellagio!" If they were more the former, then I could see how it might have gone unnoticed. If they were the latter it's definitely weird.
but, I mean, the LW tells us that the husband and the BFF are good friends. She is single. I think it's reasonable, especially if the husband entirely doesn't think of the BFF sexually and so doesn't it occur to him that there might be an alternate interpretation, that the husband thought to himself "well, my wife is away for the weekend with her good friends, so I want to do something fun with my buddy, BFF. We love watching football together!"
I'm just thinking that if this happened in my relationship, and I were out of town and my partner decided to go over to one of my single BFF's house to watch football (one of my BFF's) or baseball (a different one), he wouldn't necessarily tell me until after the fact, and I would absolutely not think anything hinky of it. So it really does depend on the couple.