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agonyaunt2012-06-18 11:37 am
madripoor_rose) wrote in agonyaunt2012-06-18 11:37 am
Real Winner Here
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Turns Out the Grass Isn't Greener
Dear Annie: I've been married for 40 years and am now retired. While working, I became infatuated with "Lucy," a co-worker. We became friends, and after one of our many lunches, we took the rest of the day off, stayed at her house, and you can guess what happened.
Annie, it was a tragic mistake that I wish I could take back. Unfortunately, what's done is done. My wife found out from a business associate, and she told me to leave. There was no discussion, no counseling, nothing.
Let me tell you, the grass is NOT greener on the other side. Right now, my wife and I are separated, and I am living with Lucy, but I'm not happy. Lucy is not the person I thought she was. We don't like the same music, the same TV programs or even the same foods. She complains that I use her computer too much and don't cut the grass as neatly as her lawn service. She doesn't want me staying up past midnight because the TV keeps her up, so I go to bed earlier than I'd like. My wife never complained about any of these things. Lucy is also not as attractive as I once thought, especially when all that makeup comes off.
I want to return home and see whether anything can be salvaged from my marriage. I took my wife to lunch the other day. She told me she's amazed to learn that she can actually make it on her own. She won't discuss divorce, which gives me some hope. My daughter says her mom might be willing to go to counseling, but my wife tells me that there's no way to regain the trust.
Lucy thinks I took my wife to lunch to discuss divorce, not reconciliation. Is it too late for my wife and me to rebuild? — Grass Not Greener
Dear Grass: Maybe not, although we have to say your reasons are rather superficial. Lucy isn't attractive enough? Your wife never complained about the TV? We hope there is more behind your regret than the disruption of your comfort levels. Please move out of Lucy's house before you attempt to reconcile.
It will show commitment. Then ask your wife to go with you for counseling. If she refuses, tell her you will be going on your own to learn how to become worthy of her trust.
Think this is the first time this guy has realized that his actions have consequences?
I also like the advice in the second letter on the page I linked to, where a woman's complaining that even when she tells a hairstylist what kind of cut she wants, and brings pictures, they never seem to cut her hair right, and these geniuses suggest talking to the stylist about what kind of cut she wants.
Turns Out the Grass Isn't Greener
Dear Annie: I've been married for 40 years and am now retired. While working, I became infatuated with "Lucy," a co-worker. We became friends, and after one of our many lunches, we took the rest of the day off, stayed at her house, and you can guess what happened.
Annie, it was a tragic mistake that I wish I could take back. Unfortunately, what's done is done. My wife found out from a business associate, and she told me to leave. There was no discussion, no counseling, nothing.
Let me tell you, the grass is NOT greener on the other side. Right now, my wife and I are separated, and I am living with Lucy, but I'm not happy. Lucy is not the person I thought she was. We don't like the same music, the same TV programs or even the same foods. She complains that I use her computer too much and don't cut the grass as neatly as her lawn service. She doesn't want me staying up past midnight because the TV keeps her up, so I go to bed earlier than I'd like. My wife never complained about any of these things. Lucy is also not as attractive as I once thought, especially when all that makeup comes off.
I want to return home and see whether anything can be salvaged from my marriage. I took my wife to lunch the other day. She told me she's amazed to learn that she can actually make it on her own. She won't discuss divorce, which gives me some hope. My daughter says her mom might be willing to go to counseling, but my wife tells me that there's no way to regain the trust.
Lucy thinks I took my wife to lunch to discuss divorce, not reconciliation. Is it too late for my wife and me to rebuild? — Grass Not Greener
Dear Grass: Maybe not, although we have to say your reasons are rather superficial. Lucy isn't attractive enough? Your wife never complained about the TV? We hope there is more behind your regret than the disruption of your comfort levels. Please move out of Lucy's house before you attempt to reconcile.
It will show commitment. Then ask your wife to go with you for counseling. If she refuses, tell her you will be going on your own to learn how to become worthy of her trust.
Think this is the first time this guy has realized that his actions have consequences?
I also like the advice in the second letter on the page I linked to, where a woman's complaining that even when she tells a hairstylist what kind of cut she wants, and brings pictures, they never seem to cut her hair right, and these geniuses suggest talking to the stylist about what kind of cut she wants.