Okay, Cousin, why are you being so intransigent about this when you know your family's reasons for objecting? There are other D-named flowers: Daffodil, frex. I know they Can't Tell You What TO DO, but it might be kinder to unbend. Also, they're probably going to tell New Daisy ALL ABOUT "the real Daisy", because people are like that, so maybe don't set her up for that.

That said, LW, no one owns a name and you will continue to heal from the loss of your cousins. You might have ended up with a little Daisy in your life some other way (your kid's best friend, for instance) and you would have to deal. I wish I could hug you while saying this but that's what I'd tell you if I could.