-- at the point at which dude is not capable of thinking about LW as anything other than an addict, as anything other than their illness, in spite of apparently substantial progress toward recovery, I find that deeply concerning in terms of long-term viability of the relationship -- because it sounds like he isn't, actually, considering LW as a partner.
I have a lot of feelings about this because of the nature of my mental illnesses and disabilities and how those impact my interpersonal relationships and care needs. The worst symptoms of my illnesses do not define my capabilities and it is patronising and dehumanising and disabling for people to treat me as though I am never capable of getting out of bed, or of thinking clearly, rather than making actual realistic assessments of where I am at and listening to mine, too, in a context where my self-assessments have been consistently reliable for many years.
I don't think we have evidence that the LW isn't similarly capable. As such, it's not okay to behave as though they're not.
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-- at the point at which dude is not capable of thinking about LW as anything other than an addict, as anything other than their illness, in spite of apparently substantial progress toward recovery, I find that deeply concerning in terms of long-term viability of the relationship -- because it sounds like he isn't, actually, considering LW as a partner.
I have a lot of feelings about this because of the nature of my mental illnesses and disabilities and how those impact my interpersonal relationships and care needs. The worst symptoms of my illnesses do not define my capabilities and it is patronising and dehumanising and disabling for people to treat me as though I am never capable of getting out of bed, or of thinking clearly, rather than making actual realistic assessments of where I am at and listening to mine, too, in a context where my self-assessments have been consistently reliable for many years.
I don't think we have evidence that the LW isn't similarly capable. As such, it's not okay to behave as though they're not.