Dear Abby: Husband shares personal info

[cereta]

DEAR ABBY: I love my husband dearly, but I have a problem. He talks too much. I'll give you an example: Instead of saying I'd had surgery, he told people I'd had surgery because when I laughed I would wet my pants, so they had to go in and re-suspend my bladder. I could hardly believe my ears.

The latest is, he posted something on Facebook about a family member that was also very personal. I have asked him many times to keep details between us, but it does no good. What can I say to him to get this point across? I'm at a loss. -- FRUSTRATED IN THE SOUTH

DEAR FRUSTRATED: It's not what you should say to him, it's what you should not say. Because your husband lacks judgment, be careful about sharing sensitive information with him and warn your relatives to do the same.

Comments

[cereta]

Okay, this is great for the other relatives, but is she seriously expecting a wife to keep things like why she is having surgery from her husband? How's that supposed to work? And what kind of marriage is that if she can't share "sensitive information" about herself with him?

[ambyr]

Seriously. "If you can't trust them not to blab, don't share things with them" is great advice when the overly chatty person in question is your second cousin who you see three times a year at holidays. It's pretty non-functional for the person you live with.

[minoanmiss]

... what? He has no responsibility to use discretion? Sheesh.

[amadi]

That's the most useless advice I can possibly imagine. Holy.