For that matter, I don't get why (mostly straight men) prize women's virginity in the first place. You want sex with someone who's nervous, inexperienced, and will likely experience at least some physical pain?
Mostly straight men -- is this actually true? I try not to have a "not all men" reaction when I read things about my gender, but nobody I know "prizes" virginity, largely for the reasons you mentioned. The LW appears to recognize this because she's afraid men will reject her for her virginity. It seems to me the people who prize virginity are those in extremely conservative and often religious communities like the one the LW comes from, and I doubt it was only the men in LW's religion who taught her to (I'm assuming) avoid premarital sex.
Abby's response is disgusting. Wtf. How about, the LW should have sex when it will make her happy, and if her current strategy isn't making her happy, she should give some thought to what would.
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Mostly straight men -- is this actually true? I try not to have a "not all men" reaction when I read things about my gender, but nobody I know "prizes" virginity, largely for the reasons you mentioned. The LW appears to recognize this because she's afraid men will reject her for her virginity. It seems to me the people who prize virginity are those in extremely conservative and often religious communities like the one the LW comes from, and I doubt it was only the men in LW's religion who taught her to (I'm assuming) avoid premarital sex.
Abby's response is disgusting. Wtf. How about, the LW should have sex when it will make her happy, and if her current strategy isn't making her happy, she should give some thought to what would.