vass: Hothead Paisan says "FEH MUH NIST". (Hothead)
Vass ([personal profile] vass) wrote in [community profile] agonyaunt 2017-11-11 01:06 pm (UTC)

Also Nephew needs to learn to keep his damn mouth shut.

...Kind of.

At best, he should have confronted his parents about it without ever telling his wife.

I don't agree with that part. He shouldn't make it her problem, but I can see wanting to keep her in the loop, since it affects how they are treating her and she may have already noticed it.

e.g. "Ugh, sorry about how my mother was glaring at you last week. I found out what was up with that. They have issues with your top being low-cut. Yeah, it's bullshit, I know. They even tried to tell me to tell you to wear something more modest. Of course I told them you're capable of dressing yourself and I'm your husband not your owner. So anyway, if you want to show up next week dressed in cling-film, or both of us in matching clown suits, I've got your back."

That doesn't mean it'd be okay for him to become the conduit of in-law disapprobation after every visit ("And she thought your hair looked so nice before you got it cut like that, and that colour lipstick is terrible on you, she says...") just that (depending on the people involved) there might be a space in between being his parents' message boy and handling his parents entirely without her, in which he and she could be a united front.

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