Also Nephew needs to learn to keep his damn mouth shut. At best, he should have confronted his parents about it without ever telling his wife. But telling his wife was only going to help if he was trying to convince his wife to stop wearing the low-cut tops -- and in that case, he should have taken ownership for the feelings being his own. "Hey, wife, I have a super uncomfortable favor to ask you. You know I was brought up Orthodox, and you know I am not anymore. But when we were at my parents I start reverting back to childhood, and I feel like I'm obliged to protect my parents from the scandalous sight of ladyflesh. I know this is something that I need to talk about with my therapist, but in the meantime, would you mind, horribly, not wearing halter tops when we go for Shabbat dinner?"