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Lucy ([personal profile] cereta) wrote in [community profile] agonyaunt2011-10-26 08:14 am
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Dear Abby: Oh, HELL, no


DEAR ABBY: My husband recently asked how I would feel about him buying a plane ticket for his brother "Jake" to visit us and his parents over the holidays. I told him I wouldn't like it -- not because my husband would be paying for the ticket, but because Jake is a registered sex offender.

My husband is now upset with me, saying Jake "served his time." I understand that, but the underage girl he messed around with was his niece. My daughter is 10 and starting to develop. She's also affectionate with family. I don't want her hugging Uncle Jake.

My husband and I are now not speaking. He told me that if his family isn't welcome in our house, he will start treating my family badly. Am I wrong for not wanting Jake sleeping under the same roof as my daughter? -- PROTECTIVE MOM IN THE MIDWEST

DEAR PROTECTIVE MOM: No, you're not wrong. That your husband would try to blackmail you into allowing a registered sex offender to sleep in the same house as your adolescent daughter is deplorable. Your daughter is old enough to be told that Uncle Jake has a problem with young girls, and that if he ever makes a move on her, you want to know immediately.

It isn't like Jake did time for bank robbery. Sex offenders are usually prohibited from having contact with minors. The man has a sexual impulse disorder that shouldn't be ignored, and your husband should not allow any risk that your daughter might be molested.
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[personal profile] recessional 2011-10-26 06:27 pm (UTC)(link)
My brain keeps trying to come up with a possible scenario to explain her husband doing this. I know, intellectually, that some people just are that . . . *EXPRESSIVE HAND GESTURE*, but there is a part of my hindbrain that makes it just not compute. There must be some deeply complex special instance story behind all this, it says! There's no way a REAL PERSON would do that.

This probably mostly just speaks well of the men I was raised around who had daughters/nieces/stepdaughters, who were the most intolerant IN THE WORLD of threats to them (yes, this was actually tested, sadly). And I know this is not a universal, or even as prevalent as it should be. And hell to the yes with "I would seriously reconsider your marriage to this man".

Just. What. WHAT. How does this man even vaguely think this could POSSIBLY be an appropriate response? DOES NOT COMPUTE. ERROR.
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