jadelennox: Buffy's Dawn: bratty kid sisters (btvs: dawn bratty kid sisters)
jadelennox ([personal profile] jadelennox) wrote in [community profile] agonyaunt 2017-10-11 10:18 am (UTC)

I have a required annual trip to family where we've always been obliged to stay in the family home, in which there is a chain smoker. A few years ago, I got my CPAP, and discovered that CPAP and cigarette smoke is a disaster. The solution was simple: we explained it to the family members, and said we'd be happy if the smoked smoked outside for a week, or we'd be happy staying in a hotel, but it had to be one or the other for health reasons. The smoker thought about it, and said no, he didn't want to smoke outside for a week. We stayed in a hotel. Everybody was happy as clams.

Yes, it costs money. Budgets can be a thing, though. Find a hostel, go to a Super 8, find a cheap sofasurf trade.

Similarly, when my sister was alive, she used a wheelchair. After a few years dragging the wheelchair up the steps with her in it for Thanksgiving dinner, I looked into adding a ramp to my house. It would have been impossible without major structural changes to the property. So, her medical needs clashed with my practical needs.

Simple solution: for holiday meals, we ate at accessible places such as restaurants or my mum's flat. It worked just fine.

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