LW, you need to talk to your husband and make sure you're on the same page. Part of being on the same page should be that if you decide you do want kids, you need to make a concrete financial goal of when it will be time (because without concrete goals it's really easy to keep moving the goalposts so it's never time, or not work for it and then act surprised it didn't happen.)
If you both agree you don't want kids enough to make those financial goals a big part of your life, or you don't think the amount you'd need to be comfortable with it is realistically achievable, (which is super valid and the path I chose!) you start telling your husband's relatives that you've decided you don't want kids and then shutting it down immediately. And make sure you're on the same page with what you're saying.
If you do set those goals (once we have a financial cushion of X years of income in savings/once we have X amount of reliable yearly income/once we have a house that's X% paid off/whatever) you start sweetly and with maximum passive aggression telling the rich relatives that you don't want to have kids until you have a specific financial cushion that you're working on, comparable to the ones they have, but if they'd like to contribute to a trust fund toward that goal, you would be happy to talk to them about how to set that up. And if they don't agree to contribute, then shut it down immediately. (Oh, well, if you're not interested in helping I don't think the details are any of your business, lovely weather we're having--)
If they do offer to set up a generous trust fund it's time to have another chat with your husband about how much and how you're willing to accept from these people! But I think the odds are low.
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If you both agree you don't want kids enough to make those financial goals a big part of your life, or you don't think the amount you'd need to be comfortable with it is realistically achievable, (which is super valid and the path I chose!) you start telling your husband's relatives that you've decided you don't want kids and then shutting it down immediately. And make sure you're on the same page with what you're saying.
If you do set those goals (once we have a financial cushion of X years of income in savings/once we have X amount of reliable yearly income/once we have a house that's X% paid off/whatever) you start sweetly and with maximum passive aggression telling the rich relatives that you don't want to have kids until you have a specific financial cushion that you're working on, comparable to the ones they have, but if they'd like to contribute to a trust fund toward that goal, you would be happy to talk to them about how to set that up. And if they don't agree to contribute, then shut it down immediately. (Oh, well, if you're not interested in helping I don't think the details are any of your business, lovely weather we're having--)
If they do offer to set up a generous trust fund it's time to have another chat with your husband about how much and how you're willing to accept from these people! But I think the odds are low.