Reading Captain Awkward helped me A LOT because that was exactly where I was going wrong in my relationships. The belief that if I just did or said the exact right thing, or did a perfect job of explaining how I was being harmed, the person causing the problem would change... it was deeply ingrained, and it took a lot of repeated explanations and examples for me to understand what the alternative was. Captain Awkward has certainly done a lot of those letters, but I actually needed the repetition so I'll always be grateful to her for that!