She can't make them understand and must give up trying.
All she can do is tell them stop asking and them decide what she will do if they won't... leave the house? Take a break from seeing them?
And yes, her husband needs to back her up.
So many advice letters -- and I noticed this first at Captain Awkward -- are full of people wanting to MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND or MAKE THEM CHANGE. All a person can do is state their own boundary and enforce it. It's quite a sea change away from How Can I Make Them Understand. These people will never understand. Her in-laws are completely without empathy.
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All she can do is tell them stop asking and them decide what she will do if they won't... leave the house? Take a break from seeing them?
And yes, her husband needs to back her up.
So many advice letters -- and I noticed this first at Captain Awkward -- are full of people wanting to MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND or MAKE THEM CHANGE. All a person can do is state their own boundary and enforce it. It's quite a sea change away from How Can I Make Them Understand. These people will never understand. Her in-laws are completely without empathy.