I don’t know if LW actually disagrees with him; she describes herself as “not enthusiastically agreeing”, not disagreeing. And clearly the baseline bigotry never bothered her because she married him to begin with (back when he had a “distaste”) and hasn’t ever pushed back since. I wonder if this is a situation where she agrees with him to a lesser extent, and just wants *her* family member to be exempt. (It’s a phenomenon I’ve encountered a lot where people hold on to their bigotry and then do cognitive leaps to exclude their family member(s) from their generalizations about that group. As one example, I used to have a racist white neighbor who doted on his Black granddaughter, but any other Black person visiting the neighborhood was seen as a likely threat.)

I agree he’s a shitstain and she’s better off without him, but I suspect she’s got some shitstaining herself.