LW I feel for you, but your history of abuse should not be your kids' problem! Especially now that your mom's dead, so there's no practical need to warn them about her! You don't have to get over it, but it shouldn't be something where they constantly know in detail whether you've gotten over it or not, they're their own people and not your therapists.
(Also if the kids are "the only family you have" this is probably not the only time when you've tried to rely on them emotionally when you shouldn't, please find some found family who aren't your kids, stat.)
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LW I feel for you, but your history of abuse should not be your kids' problem! Especially now that your mom's dead, so there's no practical need to warn them about her! You don't have to get over it, but it shouldn't be something where they constantly know in detail whether you've gotten over it or not, they're their own people and not your therapists.
(Also if the kids are "the only family you have" this is probably not the only time when you've tried to rely on them emotionally when you shouldn't, please find some found family who aren't your kids, stat.)