1. LW1, how can you be taking your cousin's side over your brother's, especially when your cousin is in the wrong? You're not creating drama, she is. Gray rock the hell out of her.
2. I have no idea what's going on between these two women aside from LW2 holding on to a weirdly petty grudge from a year ago. And maybe DIL considered that three people in the backseat of an average sedan is one too many people, who even knows. Either way, LW2 needs to let this specific complaint go.
3. I wish Abby had used the word "parentification". LW3 deserves to know that this is a form of abuse, and to have been reassured in stronger words that Mom's emotional health is not their problem.
4. So, I'm thinking that the actually inappropriate dating relationship is just the very tip of Allie's complaints against her family. I don't know that I would've actually refused to visit my extremely ill father just because of that, but I do know that I disapprove heartily of that relationship and that LW4 has apparently refused to make any attempt to reschedule, for no other reason than because they dislike her. Sure, LW4 says Husband feels the same way, but the man had a stroke! Who even knows? And maybe this isn't SIL's business, but honestly, somebody ought to be on Allie's side here.
5. I'd pay good money not to ever go to another graduation again. I'm still actively resentful of the time wasted at my own high school graduation! So yes, this is all very silly.
However, LW5 has apparently not once, in the past two decades, told Dad "If you try to manipulate my kids' emotions to get back at me then that will be the last time you talk to me or my kids ever again". And since this is Son's graduation I think they need to talk to Son and ask him if he really wants his grandfather there. If so, they need to be very clear to Son and Dad, in separate conversations - this is a one-time only deal. They will never put in this sort of absurd effort again to accommodate his pettiness. (And then tell Dad the thing about not manipulating Son, and tell Son to never again carry messages from his grandfather - after all, it's not like the man doesn't have his kid's phone number, can't call them up himself.)
6. Alexa made the right call in not accepting any money from LW6! Holy shit, they'd control everything. I cannot believe that LW6 thinks "My daughter won't let me walk her down the aisle = I am being totally ignored" and agrees with Husband that refusing to attend is, therefore, a reasonable course of action!
And they're so caught up on such trivial bullshit. JFC.
7. You go to your daughter's home, out of state, and then proceed to badmouth her on her own doorstep? Because, what, the car ride wasn't enough time to get it out of your system? LW7, admit it, you were hoping she'd overhear you. The only thing that went wrong is that she called you out on your crap. No wonder she moved out of state!
8. This story has more holes in it than my oldest socks. If LW8 routinely refers to one of the grandkids as "my grandson" and the other two as "DIL's children" then I'm not surprised DIL says she favors him over the others.
9. LW9, this isn't about Steve, this is about your parents.
Maybe they've "always been very good to you", although that sort of line always makes me suspicious, but the way they treated a guest in their home was deeply unkind and way out of line.
LW9 needs to seriously look at their relationship with their parents, because I bet if they start paying attention they'll see that there is something seriously rotten there.
10. Holy wow does LW10 need more therapy, a backbone, and a friendly gray rock they can cuddle when forced to associate with that woman.
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2. I have no idea what's going on between these two women aside from LW2 holding on to a weirdly petty grudge from a year ago. And maybe DIL considered that three people in the backseat of an average sedan is one too many people, who even knows. Either way, LW2 needs to let this specific complaint go.
3. I wish Abby had used the word "parentification". LW3 deserves to know that this is a form of abuse, and to have been reassured in stronger words that Mom's emotional health is not their problem.
4. So, I'm thinking that the actually inappropriate dating relationship is just the very tip of Allie's complaints against her family. I don't know that I would've actually refused to visit my extremely ill father just because of that, but I do know that I disapprove heartily of that relationship and that LW4 has apparently refused to make any attempt to reschedule, for no other reason than because they dislike her. Sure, LW4 says Husband feels the same way, but the man had a stroke! Who even knows? And maybe this isn't SIL's business, but honestly, somebody ought to be on Allie's side here.
5. I'd pay good money not to ever go to another graduation again. I'm still actively resentful of the time wasted at my own high school graduation! So yes, this is all very silly.
However, LW5 has apparently not once, in the past two decades, told Dad "If you try to manipulate my kids' emotions to get back at me then that will be the last time you talk to me or my kids ever again". And since this is Son's graduation I think they need to talk to Son and ask him if he really wants his grandfather there. If so, they need to be very clear to Son and Dad, in separate conversations - this is a one-time only deal. They will never put in this sort of absurd effort again to accommodate his pettiness. (And then tell Dad the thing about not manipulating Son, and tell Son to never again carry messages from his grandfather - after all, it's not like the man doesn't have his kid's phone number, can't call them up himself.)
6. Alexa made the right call in not accepting any money from LW6! Holy shit, they'd control everything. I cannot believe that LW6 thinks "My daughter won't let me walk her down the aisle = I am being totally ignored" and agrees with Husband that refusing to attend is, therefore, a reasonable course of action!
And they're so caught up on such trivial bullshit. JFC.
7. You go to your daughter's home, out of state, and then proceed to badmouth her on her own doorstep? Because, what, the car ride wasn't enough time to get it out of your system? LW7, admit it, you were hoping she'd overhear you. The only thing that went wrong is that she called you out on your crap. No wonder she moved out of state!
8. This story has more holes in it than my oldest socks. If LW8 routinely refers to one of the grandkids as "my grandson" and the other two as "DIL's children" then I'm not surprised DIL says she favors him over the others.
9. LW9, this isn't about Steve, this is about your parents.
Maybe they've "always been very good to you", although that sort of line always makes me suspicious, but the way they treated a guest in their home was deeply unkind and way out of line.
LW9 needs to seriously look at their relationship with their parents, because I bet if they start paying attention they'll see that there is something seriously rotten there.
10. Holy wow does LW10 need more therapy, a backbone, and a friendly gray rock they can cuddle when forced to associate with that woman.