I’m a “dog person” and it would still be upsetting to have a random dog jump on me. When they’re running at me I have no idea if they’re a safe dog or not, so it’s automatically frightening. Also I don’t want anyone licking my face; saliva grosses me out. One can love dogs in general, not have a phobia, and consider LW1’s actions (in excusing her dog’s behavior and not training him to avoid jumping at people) wrong.
As for LW2, if it was my kid I’d be explaining that Brother has an unsafe dog and so we can’t be around that dog, and Brother is being a dangerous uncle by excusing his dog’s behavior, so we can’t be around Brother either. If Brother stops being dangerous in the future, then we can get together with them again, but until then, we need to protect ourselves from Brother and his dog.
But I’ve never had a problem with placing blame where blame is warranted, including when that’s on family members. If they don’t want to have their poor behavior openly discussed, then they should stop behaving poorly. It’s not on me to lie to my kid to cover for someone else’s wrongdoings.
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As for LW2, if it was my kid I’d be explaining that Brother has an unsafe dog and so we can’t be around that dog, and Brother is being a dangerous uncle by excusing his dog’s behavior, so we can’t be around Brother either. If Brother stops being dangerous in the future, then we can get together with them again, but until then, we need to protect ourselves from Brother and his dog.
But I’ve never had a problem with placing blame where blame is warranted, including when that’s on family members. If they don’t want to have their poor behavior openly discussed, then they should stop behaving poorly. It’s not on me to lie to my kid to cover for someone else’s wrongdoings.