resonant: Ray Kowalski (Due South) (Default)
resonant ([personal profile] resonant) wrote in [community profile] agonyaunt 2025-03-20 04:59 pm (UTC)

"she knows I’m bad about reaching out"

Yes. She does. And this is her response to that.

If I were in the friend's situation, I might indeed have decided to step back from initiating communication, but I wouldn't have told the friend that I had done that. Mainly because if I were willing to put energy into intentional efforts to reshape the friendship, I would have done so at the beginning instead of stepping back, but also because it is a little mean.

But when the LW's best response is "It's not fair to reject me for being a low-effort friend, because you know I'm a low-effort friend," my sympathy is mostly with the friend.

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