And your hypothetical teenage self would be absolutely right. Look at how this parent is responding when their teen boy is just designated as a *troublemaker*; blaming the girls for being "the reason the boys are excluded," wanting them to do homework and deliver a lecture to the boys, etc. How much harder would they push back, blame & attack the girls, if the camp actually banned their son for committing sexual assault?
I imagine the parent who wrote this letter would say something like "but that's completely different, I would completely REVERSE my entire viewpoint if a girl had ACTUALLY been touched inappropriately I would not minimize it, I would not blame and shame the girls for being the reason the boys are excluded." .... And they probably even believe that.
But actually, I think they would double down on all these same arguments even harder. "It was an accident. He thought he was grabbing her shoulder. It was just silly horseplay. The camp is encouraging these girls to think of themselves as victims, *I* want to protect them by explaining that actually nothing happened to be upset about. The camp is siding with the girls when my boy said he didn't do anything, this is unfair and exclusionary," & so on.
It *is* very telling that this parent refuses to even let the thought cross their mind that something might have happened that no girl in the room wants to speak up about.
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I imagine the parent who wrote this letter would say something like "but that's completely different, I would completely REVERSE my entire viewpoint if a girl had ACTUALLY been touched inappropriately I would not minimize it, I would not blame and shame the girls for being the reason the boys are excluded." .... And they probably even believe that.
But actually, I think they would double down on all these same arguments even harder. "It was an accident. He thought he was grabbing her shoulder. It was just silly horseplay. The camp is encouraging these girls to think of themselves as victims, *I* want to protect them by explaining that actually nothing happened to be upset about. The camp is siding with the girls when my boy said he didn't do anything, this is unfair and exclusionary," & so on.
It *is* very telling that this parent refuses to even let the thought cross their mind that something might have happened that no girl in the room wants to speak up about.