1. I am not thrilled with the totally irrelevant mention that your wife and her friends were high and drunk at the time of the accident. It smacks of making sure we know that this was All Her Fault. I know from living with someone with anger issues, so I was kind of inclined to be sympathetic, but this did not help.
2. It should probably go without saying that she should have a neurologist and mental health expert as part of her life if economically feasible, but it's said. I am not a psych*, but she might benefit from Dialectical Behavior Therapy on the temper and frustration issues.
3. The two of you together could try using technology to its fullest. I'm not a TBI patient, but I am forgetful, and I've found that using Google Calendar + my phone is enormously helpful. You can set multiple reminders for appointments and tasks, easily make things weekly/monthly etc. She might also benefit from a bullet journal. The organization of the journal itself helps a lot.
All this can fall under "teach a woman to fish." If you, LW, invest some time in researching, learning, and helping her learning tools, you won't have to be her Google Calendar. You may have to set it up for her every month, but you won't have to remember day-to-day things. You will have to remember Abby's basic advice: this isn't about her ducking responsibility. She needs help. You need to find some way to make that help tolerable to you, or, I guess, decide if you can do this, because from what little I know of TBIs, it's not going to get better as she gets older.
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2. It should probably go without saying that she should have a neurologist and mental health expert as part of her life if economically feasible, but it's said. I am not a psych*, but she might benefit from Dialectical Behavior Therapy on the temper and frustration issues.
3. The two of you together could try using technology to its fullest. I'm not a TBI patient, but I am forgetful, and I've found that using Google Calendar + my phone is enormously helpful. You can set multiple reminders for appointments and tasks, easily make things weekly/monthly etc. She might also benefit from a bullet journal. The organization of the journal itself helps a lot.
All this can fall under "teach a woman to fish." If you, LW, invest some time in researching, learning, and helping her learning tools, you won't have to be her Google Calendar. You may have to set it up for her every month, but you won't have to remember day-to-day things. You will have to remember Abby's basic advice: this isn't about her ducking responsibility. She needs help. You need to find some way to make that help tolerable to you, or, I guess, decide if you can do this, because from what little I know of TBIs, it's not going to get better as she gets older.