Friend was being kinda annoying with the whole "giving another guest a job" thing, but tbh I can imagine that being social awkwardness coming from being stressed out about the dog being around. I def have said/done awkward things (or straight up rude) in social situations because I was anxious/uncomfortable/overwhelmed and I didn't know what to do with myself, and this particular example really reminds me of that. To me the friend's behavior seems completely understandable, honestly
"My friend would freak out when his tail wag would hit her leg" this could be an OCD thing, as someone else has brought up already. Dogs are dirty (I'm sorry, but even clean dogs smell, if you don't notice it's because you're used to it, but they do. They might not smell BAD like dirty dogs do, but it's still a noticeable smell for someone who's not around dogs regularly, and it's not pleasant)
"got upset when the dog barked when the doorbell rang" due to ND reasons some people are very sensitive to noise in general, loud noises and many noises happening at once in particular. The combo of the doorbell + barking + bunch of people at a party can in fact be pretty overwhelming and distressing
LW thinks only people who are allergic or traumatized are allowed to feel this level of discomfort around dogs, but other possibilities exist. If you don't want to lock the dog in a room or whatever (which I can understand) and find her attitude off-putting, just don't invite her to these parties and make different plans with her, if you still wanna keep this friendship 🤷♀️
I'm projecting super hard, yes
"My friend would freak out when his tail wag would hit her leg" this could be an OCD thing, as someone else has brought up already. Dogs are dirty (I'm sorry, but even clean dogs smell, if you don't notice it's because you're used to it, but they do. They might not smell BAD like dirty dogs do, but it's still a noticeable smell for someone who's not around dogs regularly, and it's not pleasant)
"got upset when the dog barked when the doorbell rang" due to ND reasons some people are very sensitive to noise in general, loud noises and many noises happening at once in particular. The combo of the doorbell + barking + bunch of people at a party can in fact be pretty overwhelming and distressing
LW thinks only people who are allergic or traumatized are allowed to feel this level of discomfort around dogs, but other possibilities exist. If you don't want to lock the dog in a room or whatever (which I can understand) and find her attitude off-putting, just don't invite her to these parties and make different plans with her, if you still wanna keep this friendship 🤷♀️