I guess it kind of felt to me that the complete lack of mention of Dad's childcare duties and how he did them is already eliding *something*. Possibly that he doesn't have any and she's also watching the kids on her work time! But something, and it's a huge bit of data we're missing.

I don't think he's said outright that not getting his own time with friends is the problem or that she's actively hiding that. But if he is on evening baby duty, possibly neither of them have gotten past their stress and irritation enough to *realize* it's a problem. If it is.