1) They were his mother's, and supposed to be saved for a proposal, and
2) He's proposing to her using a ring that his last girlfriend used to wear.
Even leaving aside 1, 2 is kind of icky for a lot of people. Having recently come out of a relationship where my partner did not let go of his ex in a reasonable manner (and which in the end spelled the end of our own relationship), I can sympathise a lot with LW. I think she should not even delve into #1, and just explain that #2 bothers her, and ask for the stones to be re-set or the rings to be redesigned.
If he's not willing to do that, or thinks she's being ridiculously, they at a minimum need to do a bunch of work on supporting each other's emotional needs, and probably aren't well-suited.
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1) They were his mother's, and supposed to be saved for a proposal, and
2) He's proposing to her using a ring that his last girlfriend used to wear.
Even leaving aside 1, 2 is kind of icky for a lot of people. Having recently come out of a relationship where my partner did not let go of his ex in a reasonable manner (and which in the end spelled the end of our own relationship), I can sympathise a lot with LW. I think she should not even delve into #1, and just explain that #2 bothers her, and ask for the stones to be re-set or the rings to be redesigned.
If he's not willing to do that, or thinks she's being ridiculously, they at a minimum need to do a bunch of work on supporting each other's emotional needs, and probably aren't well-suited.