LW: If you're tempted to follow the advice about lying to him about a flagpole, don't buy a house with him (or marry him! Or have kids!) It's one thing to disagree on politics, it's another thing to have to lie because you're afraid to try to compromise on politics. Also, frankly, if you're this worried about it and you haven't even started looking at houses yet, don't buy a house with him (or marry him! or have kids!)
That doesn't mean you've gotta break up with him (I would, but you do you) and "right-leaning but hates all politicians" might actually translate as "has already started the journey out of extremism and needs some gentle encouragement without judgement". But you don't seem like you have the kind of working communication with each other where you are the person who could provide that.
Anyway: an American flag doesn't have to be right-wing posturing; again, if your BF is the sort of person where it would *mean* right-wing posturing, don't buy a house with him. But plenty of people fly American flags for other reasons, and a lot of people I know manage to combine "hate all politicians/no point in voting/center-right social and economic views/pride in their citizenship" might want to hang a flag for reasons you would at least not feel obligated to oppose. That ought to be a place where the two of you could meet in the middle (especially if he wouldn't be dramatically opposed to flying a Pride flag under it, which is a pretty strong signal that it's *not* right-wing posturing.) We had some discussion about that last time we had a flag question here: https://agonyaunt.dreamwidth.org/547286.html
However, if he wants to fly any flag on the kind of large stationary flagpole that might come with a house, I would stand firm on a) he has to fly the US flag above it, and b) he has to follow the US flag code, and c) he is solely responsible for following the US flag code, and if he doesn't you will be taking all the flags down and disposing of them (according to the US flag code.)
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That doesn't mean you've gotta break up with him (I would, but you do you) and "right-leaning but hates all politicians" might actually translate as "has already started the journey out of extremism and needs some gentle encouragement without judgement". But you don't seem like you have the kind of working communication with each other where you are the person who could provide that.
Anyway: an American flag doesn't have to be right-wing posturing; again, if your BF is the sort of person where it would *mean* right-wing posturing, don't buy a house with him. But plenty of people fly American flags for other reasons, and a lot of people I know manage to combine "hate all politicians/no point in voting/center-right social and economic views/pride in their citizenship" might want to hang a flag for reasons you would at least not feel obligated to oppose. That ought to be a place where the two of you could meet in the middle (especially if he wouldn't be dramatically opposed to flying a Pride flag under it, which is a pretty strong signal that it's *not* right-wing posturing.) We had some discussion about that last time we had a flag question here: https://agonyaunt.dreamwidth.org/547286.html
However, if he wants to fly any flag on the kind of large stationary flagpole that might come with a house, I would stand firm on a) he has to fly the US flag above it, and b) he has to follow the US flag code, and c) he is solely responsible for following the US flag code, and if he doesn't you will be taking all the flags down and disposing of them (according to the US flag code.)