The LW didn't mention that he wants the kid to call her something else. It seems more like he doesn't want the kid to see her as a grandparent at all. The columnist brought up the trend of everyone having a unique grandparent nickname, but grandma is just a generic word, and without any mention of alternatives in the letter, it just seems to me like the husband has issues about acknowledging that his dad's wife is going to play the role of grandmother to his kid. The kid is never going to consider the husband's mother as grandma because they never met. Their grandparents are the people they will grow up interacting with and the husband needs to get over that.
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The LW didn't mention that he wants the kid to call her something else. It seems more like he doesn't want the kid to see her as a grandparent at all. The columnist brought up the trend of everyone having a unique grandparent nickname, but grandma is just a generic word, and without any mention of alternatives in the letter, it just seems to me like the husband has issues about acknowledging that his dad's wife is going to play the role of grandmother to his kid. The kid is never going to consider the husband's mother as grandma because they never met. Their grandparents are the people they will grow up interacting with and the husband needs to get over that.