I have sometimes been a dumbass and clumsily phrased "three kids feels like a normal number to me, because that's what I grew up with, with a normal range between 2-5, because that's what I saw growing up" or "if I had kids [I don't] I would want three" in a way that was heard as "and therefore I am judging you for having either 1 or more than 5" which was not what I meant. And I apologized when I realized it came out that way. As a non-parent, it's sometimes hard to remember that parents get so much horrible judgemental shit that anybody talking about parenting can sound like more of the same, and of course everyone has opinions about childhood because we were all once kids. I've tried to get better as I got older but I'm sure I hurt a lot of people before I figured it out.
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I have sometimes been a dumbass and clumsily phrased "three kids feels like a normal number to me, because that's what I grew up with, with a normal range between 2-5, because that's what I saw growing up" or "if I had kids [I don't] I would want three" in a way that was heard as "and therefore I am judging you for having either 1 or more than 5" which was not what I meant. And I apologized when I realized it came out that way. As a non-parent, it's sometimes hard to remember that parents get so much horrible judgemental shit that anybody talking about parenting can sound like more of the same, and of course everyone has opinions about childhood because we were all once kids. I've tried to get better as I got older but I'm sure I hurt a lot of people before I figured it out.