oh my - this sad sister fails on every level of being a relative, nay, of being human. I honestly cannot believe the BS she's trying to peddle to whitewash the horrid behavior, not only hers (and husband's) but also the cousins, who are at the least complicit. but mostly I place the fault on sister, who of course will never actually realize/believe that she's at fault in any way. I appreciated Amy's response, and hope to hell the excluded sister has a solid support circle of non-relatives, who'll treat her much much better.