I wish advice blogs would ban discussions on if the letter is real or not because it's basically derailment. Especially because I have _so often_ seen it coming from people refusing to believe that other people will do $thing, even in the face of many other people coming in to tell them that, yes, people will do the thing. So let's say I'm the letter writer, writing in about an awful thing that happened to me, just to see the comments calling me a liar. It's not helpful to anyone.

While I'm banning things, I also want to ban "oh, I know where you work/you sound like my coworker" stuff. In an AAM open thread a few years ago, someone pulled "you sound like my husband" on me. I denied being their husband, and then that person responded with a long comment about oh, they know, their husband doesn't actually work that job, etc. But it basically denies someone their anonymity to play tee-hee games like that.

Yeah. I mostly stopped reading AAM comments section a while ago.