If that boy were younger, I would suggest that he has a crush on you.
AUGH. Can we please, please, please get rid of that cultural trope? The first time I heard it in relation to my daughter was when she was in the toddler room at daycare; a boy was shoving and hitting her, and the teacher said he had a "crush" on her. Which, you know, he did exhibit other behavior that indicated that he liked her more than the other kids, but can we not create the impression that someone treating you badly is a sign that they have romantic feelings for you? Because here I am again, when kiddo is nine, and there's a boy who teases her relentlessly at school, and guess what her friends are saying? Oh, he liiiiiiikes you. Maybe he does and maybe he doesn't, but his behavior is making her unhappy, and I don't ever want her to excuse someone's poor behavior on the notion that well, that's just how they show they like you.
On the main matter, I kind of want to side-eye Abby's advice, because the LW has tried telling "adults," but I don't really know what other advice she could have given.
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AUGH. Can we please, please, please get rid of that cultural trope? The first time I heard it in relation to my daughter was when she was in the toddler room at daycare; a boy was shoving and hitting her, and the teacher said he had a "crush" on her. Which, you know, he did exhibit other behavior that indicated that he liked her more than the other kids, but can we not create the impression that someone treating you badly is a sign that they have romantic feelings for you? Because here I am again, when kiddo is nine, and there's a boy who teases her relentlessly at school, and guess what her friends are saying? Oh, he liiiiiiikes you. Maybe he does and maybe he doesn't, but his behavior is making her unhappy, and I don't ever want her to excuse someone's poor behavior on the notion that well, that's just how they show they like you.
On the main matter, I kind of want to side-eye Abby's advice, because the LW has tried telling "adults," but I don't really know what other advice she could have given.