I've been thinking about this letter a lot because I just recently ended a friendship and this issue was one of the contributing factors.
There was no reciprocity in the relationship. It was always me inviting this friend over to my house or her inviting herself over to my house. I never expected her to invite me over to hers, but she never invited me to do anything at all--never asked me to go window shopping or for a walk or to lunch or anything. Just waited for me to invite her over or asked me if I was accepting visitors when she came to my part of town. I started to feel like the cruise director of her life, like she considered me responsible for creating social situations for her and responsible for doing all the work. It was very annoying.
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I've been thinking about this letter a lot because I just recently ended a friendship and this issue was one of the contributing factors.
There was no reciprocity in the relationship. It was always me inviting this friend over to my house or her inviting herself over to my house. I never expected her to invite me over to hers, but she never invited me to do anything at all--never asked me to go window shopping or for a walk or to lunch or anything. Just waited for me to invite her over or asked me if I was accepting visitors when she came to my part of town. I started to feel like the cruise director of her life, like she considered me responsible for creating social situations for her and responsible for doing all the work. It was very annoying.