Well, she gets one right (sorta) and one totally wrong, which is shockingly good stats for Harriette!
1. Ignore the rest of Harriette's answer, LW1, just walk away.
Also, I'm slightly concerned by the fact that this man who lives on a college campus apparently is dating somebody barely out of college. On the one hand, adults can do what they want, yes! On the other, it's not at all shocking to me that some guy who's going to try this "pay me $1000 rent, baby, when we move in to my free apartment together" scheme is 30 years old and can't find somebody his own age to date. Or, less charitably, is deliberately trying to date people who are new to this whole adulthood gig and presumably have less experience recognizing red flags.
2. LW2, don't marry this dude. Just don't. There are plenty of other nice people you could marry who clean up after themselves. This is not your OCD.
If you're bound and determined to ignore my excellent advice on the matter, at least remember this: Couples counseling today is a heck of a lot cheaper than divorce tomorrow.
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1. Ignore the rest of Harriette's answer, LW1, just walk away.
Also, I'm slightly concerned by the fact that this man who lives on a college campus apparently is dating somebody barely out of college. On the one hand, adults can do what they want, yes! On the other, it's not at all shocking to me that some guy who's going to try this "pay me $1000 rent, baby, when we move in to my free apartment together" scheme is 30 years old and can't find somebody his own age to date. Or, less charitably, is deliberately trying to date people who are new to this whole adulthood gig and presumably have less experience recognizing red flags.
2. LW2, don't marry this dude. Just don't. There are plenty of other nice people you could marry who clean up after themselves. This is not your OCD.
If you're bound and determined to ignore my excellent advice on the matter, at least remember this: Couples counseling today is a heck of a lot cheaper than divorce tomorrow.