LW, if your husband is not aware of the side effects of your medications, and if you feel like you can't complain about your chronic pain to your husband of all people (!!) then the problem is deeper than you both repeating yourself.
That said, it's possible he *is* aware. If he also watched your mother die of Alzheimer's, seeing his loved ones have memory lapses as they get older is probably painful and scary for him, too, and this may be his way of dealing with that without confronting it. My grandmother died of Alzheimer's (and my great-grandmother of a different dementia) and there is no mention of anyone having memory issues in my family where the shadow of that isn't there in the background for all of us somehow.
You two need to have some serious and vulnerable conversations about your health problems and your medication, the feelings you both have about them, how you want to communicate about them, the way your mother's death still effects you both, healthy ways to handle your memory lapses and other side effects as a couple, how you need his support with both your pain and other side effects, and also how you're going deal with the inevitable other health problems you're both going to have as you age together.
Or you could both keep putting up with your mild irritation whenever you repeat yourself, and push off the hard conversations until they're inevitable (tbh I'd probably pick that one personally.)
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That said, it's possible he *is* aware. If he also watched your mother die of Alzheimer's, seeing his loved ones have memory lapses as they get older is probably painful and scary for him, too, and this may be his way of dealing with that without confronting it. My grandmother died of Alzheimer's (and my great-grandmother of a different dementia) and there is no mention of anyone having memory issues in my family where the shadow of that isn't there in the background for all of us somehow.
You two need to have some serious and vulnerable conversations about your health problems and your medication, the feelings you both have about them, how you want to communicate about them, the way your mother's death still effects you both, healthy ways to handle your memory lapses and other side effects as a couple, how you need his support with both your pain and other side effects, and also how you're going deal with the inevitable other health problems you're both going to have as you age together.
Or you could both keep putting up with your mild irritation whenever you repeat yourself, and push off the hard conversations until they're inevitable (tbh I'd probably pick that one personally.)