LW 1: You have a bigger problem here than the dog issue, if your in-laws are constantly rude to you and you're afraid to talk to your husband about it. You need to figure out how you'd like your husband to respond when you tell him things like that, and figure out how to have the discussion with him that you need to be the one who decides what the response is, if the issue is about you, and then you will have an ally on your side instead of a poorly-controlled attack dog.
Do you want to not have to visit them at Christmas? Do you want to maintain contact and just have a moratorium on dog talk (or a moratorium on rudeness)? Do you want your husband to always be there to support you with them in the moment? Do you want to be able to vent to him and nothing else? Do you want his advice on how you can handle his mom? Do you want to cut them off entirely, or make a rule that contact with them is only through him for awhile? Those are all things it's reasonable to discuss with him. And you also need to figure out if some of what you think he might do is actually a good response - you really don't have to go over at Christmas if neither of you want to!
And if you can't trust him not to immediately fly off the handle regardless of your wishes, that's definitely something you need to work out with him first.
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LW 1: You have a bigger problem here than the dog issue, if your in-laws are constantly rude to you and you're afraid to talk to your husband about it. You need to figure out how you'd like your husband to respond when you tell him things like that, and figure out how to have the discussion with him that you need to be the one who decides what the response is, if the issue is about you, and then you will have an ally on your side instead of a poorly-controlled attack dog.
Do you want to not have to visit them at Christmas? Do you want to maintain contact and just have a moratorium on dog talk (or a moratorium on rudeness)? Do you want your husband to always be there to support you with them in the moment? Do you want to be able to vent to him and nothing else? Do you want his advice on how you can handle his mom? Do you want to cut them off entirely, or make a rule that contact with them is only through him for awhile? Those are all things it's reasonable to discuss with him. And you also need to figure out if some of what you think he might do is actually a good response - you really don't have to go over at Christmas if neither of you want to!
And if you can't trust him not to immediately fly off the handle regardless of your wishes, that's definitely something you need to work out with him first.